“Why Do You Like Marks So Much?”
I had a friend ask me recently what it was about marks that I like so much. He couldn’t understand the appeal. I was thinking about it, and I’m sure a lot of people who read my blog wonder too. What is it about marks that makes me so wet and horny? Well, here it is, in a nutshell.
For starters, I’m 50% Irish, and 50% Italian. As it turns out, I got the Irish part of the genes when it comes to skin and hair. I burn easily, I freckle in the summer, and I have generally very pale and sensitive skin.
As many of you know, I adore impact play, and I think it is the one thing I could never do without. Because of that wonderful Irish skin, I pinken much more quickly than most even with just a few blows. Still, being pink is usually gone in an hour or two after the blows stop, depending on how long and how hard I am being hit.
What happens is, as time goes on, I need more and more pain to really get off and have amazing O’s. More and more pain lead to longer and harder beatings, and longer and harder beatings lead to marks. The most basic reason why I enjoy marks is because they are almost born of necessity. I am just almost always bound to have marks because of the type of play we do. My first “severe” bruises were shocking to me. I didn’t see them until after the fact, but I remember being scared of them and keeping my bruises hidden under clothing for the most part. I don’t do that now, but that was my initial reaction.
Still, if you do impact play at the level me and Master do, with my Irish skin, you’re going to get marks. They are just part and parcel. At first, I had to just learn to get used to them. (If you can’t change it, learn to love it!)
After I got comfortable with having marks (of varying shades and ages), I began to almost look forward to them as a momento of the play I had. The play itself isn’t for marks, per se, but it is very hot to me to be changing into my bikini the next day (for example) and there’s a bruise popping ever-so-slightly out of my bra, reminding me of the fun we’ve had.
There is also something incredibly sexy that turns me on when I have a dull ache in my bruises the next day. Suddenly, I put a bra on, and my tits are sore. Or, I lean on my thighs, and I feel the welts come to life again. Only once (but I’d love for it to happen again!) I felt my ass every time I sat on it the next day. My ass is not prone to marking or bruises, so that was incredibly hot to me.
For a while, I felt like marks were OK anywhere that was usually covered by clothing. The truth is though that having my neck bitten (we’re talking teeth here, not suction) is one of the hottest fucking things ever, and sends me into another world immediately. Biting with teeth leaves marks too. I didn’t want to give that up. I’d sooner give up orgasms.
Now, I’m at the point where marks are fine but Master would prefer we kept me free of marks anywhere a medical professional could see. True, they can’t report it as I’m a legally consenting adult, but there’s no reason to have them treat me poorly because of marks. I concur. It’s not like the once or twice I go to the doctor’s for a check up or a dental cleaning is that big of a deal, anyway. We can abstain from marks for two or three days, yes? And Master always makes it up to me anyway.
Looking in the mirror later on when I’m alone also reminds me of something very clear and obvious (but reminders always help). They remind me that I am my Master’s. His toy, his beast. Each mark that I get is not without his approval (even marks that are given to me by others). In truth, marks remind me of my servitude, not only to Master but to those he lends me to as well.
Some marks humiliate me, some marks turn me on, some marks happen by accident. They are all little bits of joy to me though. Little reminders. I have always said that I never feel truly dressed without my bells on. Well, I also never feel truly dressed without a bruise.
To put it all simply, as a member of that famous Fight Club once said:
Sometimes, I just want to destroy something beautiful.
9 thoughts on ““Why Do You Like Marks So Much?””
I love the hand print, must have been a hell of spank to leave a full hand print impression. I love marks to a certain extent, like rope, cable tie, belt marks I adore. And I thrive on bite marks and scratch marks, but I am very paranoid about doing damage to the breasts so think I would probably not like to have marks, especially deep marks on them. Anywhere else however,mmm.
I also totally agree with the being bitten thing, that sweet spot between my shoulder and neck, even a nibble there weakens my knees a full bite will pretty much have me climaxing instantly.
@AmethystWolf 🙂 Wow, I can’t climax simply from a bite, but I totally turn to putty. 🙂
I’m glad for you to explain this because it’s something I have not understood. I’m not that into receiving pain, a bit here and there, and I also am very hard to bruise, though I do have the same Irish/Northern European fairness. Especially since I’m more of a Dom, the idea of being hit hard enough to bruise just makes me mad and want to fight.
I have TOTALLY made the connection between fight club and my love for BDSM! I’m sure we aren’t the first kinksters and will not be the last to do so.
People wonder why you’d consensually have yourself beaten, tied up..etc..and while the reasons can run all over the spectrum, I like this particular quote in relation to BDSM:
“Self improvement is masturbation. Now self destruction…”
Not that I’m knockin self’ lovins…lol
Lovely post, Faete!
Kink Academy has some free vids done by Sir Guy about dealing with Law Enforcement but I think the info could be used when dealing with doctors & other mandatory reporters. http://www.kinkacademy.com/home/tag/sir-guy/
I bruise easily and I’ve only had a problem when I’ve been extremely anemic and so looked like I had 2 black eyes. That said, we don’t do physical play.
@Lada MacManus There are VERY few places in the USA in which Doctors are required to report abuse. In most cases, they are not even *permitted* to report unless you are under age. Even if the person is clearly being abused in a way in which is severe, all they can do is encourage YOU to report it if you are over 18 years of age. It depends on where you live though.
Still, thanks for the link. I’ll check it out. 🙂
I feel quite similarly about marks. I wear them with pride, savoring any lingering ache/pain as a pleasant reminder of fun that I have had. As to leaving marks on others, it indulges my animalistic side, claiming someone as MINE even if it’s just for a scene.
@Fuminori Sometimes fight scenes in movies turn me on. Fight Club has some scenes that are included in that statement, for me 😀
My skin is the same way. I thought I was weird, but I guess not.
I love marks too, but my hubby is not a fan, so he won’t leave any on me often:(
@Beck Yeah, got to love fair skin. Aww, that sucks your hubby isn’t a fan of marks, but he sure is cute enough to make up for it. =^.~=
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